@LWFlouisa new instance again? From the domain name, it seems like you'll be politically safer on that one? BTW you might be interested in an essay I posted recently, which critiques Safer Spaces Policing:
@LWFlouisa my argument has always been that this mission creep is inherent in the idea of a "safer spaces policy", which implies Safer Spaces Policing. I've always argued for "guidelines" (which help keep us safe) instead of "ground rules" (which imply a ground ruler). See:
@LWFlouisa Thanks :) I'm pretty good with conflict. I'm lucky in that the violence I experienced in my childhood left me feeling like almost anything that happens isn't going to be as bad as that was, so I can handle it. Obviously there are major downsides to surviving childhood violence too (eg chronic depression and suicidal ideation), and I can see why similar experiences would make other people conflict-avoidant, but that's just how it panned out for me.
@LWFlouisa I was a chubby little guy, and despite being chronically bullied from the time I started school, my parents wouldn't let me learn martial arts. I became a self-trained expert in de-escalation, because I had no choice but to depend on the gift of the gab to get me out of tight spots. The only time I can't handle conflict is when I get dogpiled by people using guilt trips and strawman arguments to shut down and prevent open discussion of what happened, and how to resolve it.
@LWFlouisa I've seen it in-person, mainly in activist circles. We also saw it happen to #WilWeaton here on the fediverse. However "problematic" his comments about this or that might have been, there was no justification for dogpiling him off the fediverse entirely. What worries me is that the same tools used to do that could also be used to drive someone off for being trans, or gay, or POC, or for any arbitrary reason. It's a dangerous precedent, and its one of the reasons I'm speaking out now.